Sunday, May 12, 2013

Because of My Mom

Every Saturday night I find myself at Wal-Mart. Last night was no different. Hang on...yes it was. It was the night before Mother's Day. I don't know if your Wal-Mart stores are like ours, but you never, NEVER got to Wal-Mart the night before a holiday. It is C-R-A-Z-Y. CRAZY.
 
People were everywhere. Things were everywhere. There were no carts in the stall!! I took that as an omen and decided I would get in and get out as fast as possible. But first, I needed a cart. So did the older woman looking for one. I ventured outside and found two right by each other. I grabbed both of them. One for me, one for the woman. I came back in and asked if she was still in need of a cart. Her son came in after me and had one, so I left it in the empty stall. A man came in and grabbed. I felt good inside. I did my good deed for the day.
 
I had a short list. I headed to get milk first. As I came down the major isle, I noticed boxes of Suddenly Salad all over the floor. Someone had knocked them down and left them. In my mind I was thinking how rude. You should always pick up after yourself. My mother taught me that. As I left the mess behind, a voice came in my head saying, "What would your mother do?" I answered it with, "She would pick it up." My mom taught me to be helpful.
 
I turned around and went straight for the boxes. I picked all of them up. There were around twelve scattered, along with the boxes that housed them. I felt weird because people were staring at me. Haven't they ever seen someone picking up a mess before?
 
I was finished and headed to get my milk. I put three gallons in my cart (we drink lots of milk). I now turned to go get some baby oatmeal cereal for Britten. I walked past an isle and thought I heard someone quietly ask, "Can you help me find my dad?" I turned around and there stood a little boy, with a toy in hand, looking scared. I asked him, "Are you lost?" He nodded his head and said, "I can't find my dad."
 
"Let's go find him," I said. I turned around and saw a gentleman hiding behind some clothes. I figured this little boy had wandered and the dad was following him to see what he would do (been there done that). I laughed a little and asked the boy, "Is your dad wearing a yellow shirt?" He nodded and his dad came out. "You have to stay with dad, buddy." My heart was happy that this boy wasn't really lost. A week ago Becca wandered from me, but I didn't see where she had gone. My heart was racing! I'm glad I helped that little boy, even though he was never in real danger. After all, my mom taught me to have compassion.
 
I finished picking up the items on my list. It took me longer than I thought it would. There were so many people! I'd get stuck behind the person who would park their cart on one side of the isle while checking out the items on the other side. I waited. I'd get stuck behind the family groups who would take up the whole isle. Usually I would be a little annoyed, but this time was different. I started the shopping trip doing what my mom taught me to do, so I kept it up. I was polite and waited. My mom taught me to be patient.
 
I made it to the checkouts. The lines were long- they always are the night before a holiday. I was waiting patient and realized the line up ahead only had one person in it. Normally, I would walk right on up, but this time was different. I asked the man in front of me if he planned on going into that line. He said no. So I went for it! My mom taught me to be thoughtful.
 
Outside I loaded up my car with my few groceries. I jumped in and pulled out of my parking space. As I entered the cross walk, a few people walked right out of the store and into the cross walk (why do they always do that?). Instead of getting mad and giving them the 'eye of death' look, I smiled and waved them on through. My mom taught me to be considerate.
 
I made it out of the parking lot, full of thanks for my great mother. I contemplated the thought that if everyone would just live their lives by their mother's teachings, what a better world this would be. Thank heaven for mothers.
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
 



Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Kate turned 9

Kate celebrated her 9th birthday on the 3rd. I can't believe it! My kids still seem little to me, but in reality they aren't. Here's a quick rundown of her day.
 
She requested donuts for her classroom, so that's what she got. I loaded up 2 and a half dozen donuts and a baby and headed over to her school. She was super excited. She seemed even more excited to have some left over.
 
She requested to go out for dinner this year. I was the lucky one who accompanied her. She chose Chili's. I love Chili's too! We talked over dinner. After, we went shopping for her gift.
 
I was surprised at what she chose this year. She spent most of her money on clothes! Grace and Becca, maybe, but not Kate. I let her pick them out. She chose two cute outfits. One even had a skirt! $10 was left and she wanted it in cash (she has since bought a new bike lock). We also picked up her cake and ice cream, chocolate cake and cookies and cream ice cream!
 
On Saturday, she went to lunch with Grandma Lori. Then they went shopping too. She picked out a Lego watch. That screams Kate! She loves it!! And it's really made of Lego pieces!
 
I had fun interviewing her this year! Here are her answers:
 
favorite color(s)- blue, green, red
favorite food- steak and pizza
favorite candy- Symphony bar and a KitKat
favorite song(s)- When I am Baptized, Crazier by Taylor Swift
favorite book- Harry Potter series, Squish series
favorite outside activity- riding her bike
what she likes about herself- she can sing
what she wants to be when she grows up- cowgirl or a cop
favorite animal- dog or wolf 
freinds- McKenzie, Elizabeth,Sterling, Walker, Kaycee, Chloe, Whitney
talent- she can put both legs behind her head
favorite movie- Harry Potter
what she learned at 8- write in cursive, mastered her multiplication and division facts (the girl is great at math), learned a lot about the Arctic Puffin
her gaol for the coming year- learn how to do tricks on her bike
 
Kate we love you! We are so glad to have you in our family. You are always smiling. That makes everyone around you smile too. you are a beautiful, talented, lovely lady. Don't ever change for anyone!!
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Thoughts of an Old Friend

During the day I am in complete "mommy mode." My thoughts center around my children and their needs. I guess while I'm at work they focus on the 32 pre-schoolers I have the pleasure of teaching, but same diff in my mind.
 
Once everyone is in bed, husband included, I have the luxury of having my mind back. It thinks Larae thoughts and envisions Larae dreams. Oh how I cherish that time (even though it is quite brief because I am soon drifting off to sleep)!
 
A lot of times those thoughts are about my "brothers and sisters" inside my church who are struggling to find where they belong. I really don't know why. Maybe because of all the blogs that exisit out there and the surge in media stories about it? I don't know. A big part of me really wants to understand where they are coming from. Why we view things so differntly.
 
Tonight I came across an entry on one of the blogs. It made me sad. It was the wife of an old friend from jr high. He was one of my best friends (and boyfriend at one point)! He is now an athiest and she is still searching for her place in our church. I know being sad is not what they want me to feel becuase they are okay with where they are at. But, I still am. 
 
Sometimes I wish things wouldn't change when we grow up. Friends and memories could stay just like you remember them, like my old dear friend from jr. high. How I would love to talk to him. Ask him questions. I wonder if it would offend him? We were such good friends; I hope not, but sometimes I am so opinionated. I can offend without intending. I would hope that he would remember that and have a little compassion. Afterall, he was our high school valedictorian and on our debate team. He would wipe the floor with me if I ever got in a debate with him! I just wish him and his wife the peace they are wanting.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Blessings

We have been blessed with so much! Everyday I am grateful!
 
 
We are officially under contract on our home. We put it up on Thursday, we got an offer on Friday, and were under contract by Saturday. Come Monday, she backed out. That really upset me. We had a cash offer come in after we signed with her. Our agent called him and he was no longer interested (the market is crazy hot right now). So, we put it up again Monday evening. We had a showing that night and another scheduled for the morning. By noon on Tuesday, both had put offers in! I was happy once again. And we are hoping this couple chooses to be for real! We are supposed to close May 23rd. We are just waiting to hear what the appraiser said and then an inspection! We are keeping our fingers crossed!
 
 
Another blessing happened, April 14th!
 
Britten C Russell Merrit was blessed by his father.
 
 
 

 

 
We are so grateful for the family and friends that came!
 
I made sure I got pictures with my mom! (thanks, Kiersty for reminding me!)
 
 
 
 

 
It was such a nice weekend.
 
And, I feel I should catch up on our little guy. He's three months! Time seriously goes way too fast! He is such a talker and a giggler. He is also the easiest baby I have ever had! Such a blessing because I am one tired mama.
 
 
 
 

 
 

 
 
The rest of the kids are doing great! They are all excited for summer. We hope to have a good one. We will be homeless, but thanks to Russ and Lori (Dustin's parents) we will have a place to live! You know that feeling when all is well and you just know you are completely blessed? Yeah, I have that feeling. And, I LOVE it!!
 


Thursday, April 4, 2013

For Sale!

I have so much I need to catch up on, but this will be first.




We finally bit the bullet and did it! I'm full of crazy mixed emotions, tired, and overwhelmed, but plugging along.

I have wanted this for over three years and now that the moment is here, I'm being all crazy! Change has always been exciting to me, but the thought of changing my kids' lives is throwing me for a loop. Ryan was in tears when we told the kids and when we were driving out to see our lot where our new home will be built. I felt like an awful mom that day. 

We are planning to move to Stansbury Park. Some people call it farm country. I like to call it the suburbs of the suburbs. I'm excited to be where it's quiet and where the pace of life is a little slower. Not to mention I get to build the house exactly the way I want. It will have an entry, third car garage, fireplace, and a master bath!!! I can't wait!!!

Floor plan:


We are doing the double sink in the master bath and finishing two bedrooms and a bath in the basement. In the future we will finish the third bedroom in the basement along with the rec room.

Elevation:


We will pick our own colors and I'm hoping for peaks on the side instead of gables, Gotta stay in our budget!



Now we just got to get this place SOLD!!!

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Grace's Choice

Grace had her ears pierced yesterday.
 
 
 
 

 
 
I have one happy 11 year old! She has been waiting for this day since she was 7! That's a lot of years of, "Mom, can I get my ears pierced?"
 
My answer was always the same. "Ask your father. He has to be okay with it." This would break her heart, but I wasn't about to say yes to something Dustin was so against.
 
Dustin's family traditions don't include piercing your ears. I understand why and I agree with it, to a point. Your body is a special gift, so why do you want to put holes in it?What's the difference between a hole in your nose, or a hole in your ear?These are the questions he'd ask me and Grace both. Hard to argue with.
 
 Dustin and I have had this battle for years. Neither one would budge. Grace was left without a real answer. I think it confused her that we never agreed. I felt strongly that I was saying no to something I could say yes to. There are going to be a lot of nos in the coming future. I want to be able to say yes as much as possible.
 
A few weeks ago Dustin took Grace on a little daddy-daughter date to the U of U gymnastics meet. Grace had been wanting to ask him again for quite a while, but she told me every time she went to ask him, he would get mad at another kid for something and she knew it was bad timing- smart girl! So here they were coming home, stuck in traffic during a snow storm. Dustin said she got real quiet and just asked, "Dad, can I get my ears pierced?"
 
He asked back, "Why? Grace, why do you want your ears pierced?" He said her eyes welled up with tears and she explained that all her friends have earrings. He said they had a good talk about doing things because friends do them. Then he shared out of the scriptures where it talks about our bodies being bought with a price. He explained how he felt our bodies are not ours, just on loan. And asked her if she gave somebody a gift, and then they turned around and put holes into it, how she would feel? Everything he's ever said to her before, but then said this, "If this is something you want, then I want you to pray to know if it's right. Since it's your body, whatever answer you get, I WILL SUPPORT."
 
Boy did she take the challenge! She studied the scriptures he gave, prayed, and wrote her feelings in her journal. She went all out! Dustin asked several times if she had made a decision yet. She would reply, "I'm still working on it, Dad." She thought and prayed for over a week. When she had felt she had her answer, she told him, "I'm going to do it."
 
I was waiting for him to try to talk her out of it, but it never happened. My heart was happy. Happy for Grace. Happy for a husband who was letting my daughter decide for herself and not making her feel guilty about her choice. Happy that I had a daughter who is strong. She knew what her dad wanted, but didn't let that scare her. Happy that I had a daughter who knew how to make choices. Just plain happy!!
 
I stole a peek at her journal. It was a wonderful thing to read. At first she wasn't sure what to do, but as each day went by, she was sure. Then she was scared, but I read this:
 
"I'm scared to get my ears pierced. I'm afraid it will hurt. But I know if this is something Heavenly Father will let me do, I know he'll be with me. I don't have to be afraid."
 
At the store I was holding her hand. She was terrified. I was about to tell here to just say a little prayer. Before I could, she closed her eyes. She didn't tell me she was praying, but I figured she was. When they opened, she was more calm. She finally let the women do it. They gave her the mirror when she was done. She was beaming! She left that store with a beautiful pair of blue earrings and knowing she could do hard things.
 
 I left that store with a happy 11 year-old that I knew would do great things!!
 

Saturday, March 2, 2013

6 Weeks In

I had a baby six weeks ago. time has seemed to fly, but then it doesn't (does that make sense?). I get asked often how we are all adjusting. Here's a quick run down.
 
Dad:
He is doing great! A new job and a new baby turned his world upside down, at first, but now he's adjusted. I felt awful the first day of his new job. We were sitting on the bed talking and he was crying, wondering what he had just done. He gave up his dream job for us! I love him for it, and a bunch of other things! When it comes to Britten, it's just like the last 5 times. Hands down, Dustin is a great father. He changes diapers, he's not afraid of their crying, he's hands on. He does like his sleep, so I let him have it. I wish I could hand the baby over some nights, but I can be happy without sleep.
 
Ryan:
When people ask Ryan, "How's the baby?"
His response, "He's fine. He's a baby."
Typical 15 year-old, I guess. Don't get me wrong, he loves Britten. He gives him a kiss in the morning, before he leaves for school, and before bedtime. Ryan is a man of few words, though.  All-in-all, Ryan is well adjusted and happy to have a new little brother.
 
Aaron:
Just like his dad. Hands on! Aaron has always been my little helper with all my babies, especially the last two girls. When I have a crying baby and can't get to them real fast, Aaron is right there to help. He has changed a couple of diapers, too. His favorite thing to do is to lay a sleeping baby on his chest and play video games. He has given Britten the nick-name, The Child. It's really cute to see him with him.
 
Grace:
Mama's helper. I've already posted about her. She is a 2nd mom to Britten. She will keep him all day long, until he throws up. Once that happens, she is turned off by the idea of having a baby. It's kind of funny to watch. She has always had a sensitive nose. i think the smell is too much for her. Other than spit-up, she's fine.
 
Kate:
Kate seems the least interested at times, kind of like Ryan. Maybe they feel I already have enough help. It's true. I have lots of help. She comes around when no one is around. We have good talks while she holds her baby brother.
 
Becca:
I can tell she's a little sad not to be the center of attention. She has been acting out quite a bit. it is unlike her to be naughty- choosing to be naughty, I should say. She loves it when I put her in charge of him. I di dthat today. I need to remember to do it more. I have a happier Becca when I do.
 
Ace (our dog):
I would say his world has been turned upside down the most. The first week he was depressed. eh wouldn't eat, or drink. I would call him to come and he wouldn't want to be by me. I made me sad. He will now sit by me when I'm holding the baby. tonight he laid down on Britten's foot. When he got close enough, he licked Britten's fist. I think he's coming around. I think he was just confused of who he was.
 
Mom:
I'm doing great! I am tired, but don't mind. My pregnancy prepared me well. I get more sleep now than then. My mind is well. I was scared to have another baby because I had a breakdown after Becca. I had a little anxiety when he first came home, but it has taken care of itself. It's hard to not have my own time, but once I'm cleared for exercise, I know that will change. Having a post pregnancy body has probably been the biggest adjustment of all. I still feel like I got hit by a truck most days and I'm still squishy. It was hard to watch the scale go up, and not go down to where I started. I always hold on to 10 lbs, but once I quit nursing, it goes away- I hope. There is a huge difference in having a baby in your 20s vs. late 30s.
Britten:
He is growing fast! I took him to the doctor the other day and he weighed in at 10 lbs 12 oz. He had gained almost 3 lbs in a month! I love to see the rolls forming on his thighs. He is starting to be awake longer. He will talk to himself. He smiles now. He wakes up once during the night to eat, usually around 3. He went on his first walk today. I twas nice to be outside in the sun. He loves to be held and luckily has enough siblings to make it happen. I'm working on that. His cranky time is from 10 am - 11 am. i still can't figure out why. Overall, he is a happy baby.
 
I am thankful we are all well. It feels good inside to say our family is complete. We are glad Britten is here and is healthy and thriving. There have been adjustments by all, but they have been worth it. We were due for a change- it's good for you. We look forward to all that's in store!!
 
 
 
 
one month old

 
first walk outside
 


he was excited!!
 


 
little moms


 
first family snapshot