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The BIG talk!

Okay, so we had "the talk" with our boys. Now, I share this so all you have not, can learn from our experience. Dustin and I had not sat down with eachother and discussed the things we should say to them(mistake #1). The boys were wathching TV with him, and the term sex offender was mentioned on the news. Ryan asked, "Dad what's sex?"

I was not downstairs, I was bathing the girls upstairs. Dustin called to me. He let me know what they asked, and said we needed to talk to them. I said okay, and finished bathing the girls. I did not ask him to wait for me, I thought he would(mistake #2).

I came down the stairs. All I heard was some very discriptive nouns about the male and female bodies(certain "parts"). He was explaining how they "become one" (this is not the way he said it). All I could think in my head was, "Fit together like a puzzle" over and over again. I had seen a Dr. Phil where he was talking about how to talk to your kids, and explained how kids under twelve or thirteen didn't need to know about where parts go and what they do.

I rounded the corner in time to see Ryan's eyes get big and his head thrown back in digust. Aaron said, "You mean the ____ goes in the _____? The man is inside...?"

I blurted out," You fit together like a puzzle. Heavenly Father made us to fit like a puzzle!" I was mortified! It has to be at the bottom of The Best Sex Talk With Your Kids List. Just above the parents who still explain it by the analogy of the birds and the bees( I still don't understand how that comes into play). So, they do know how it all works now. Ryan has informed me that he thinks that is the grossest thing ,and he is never doing that. I simply told him that there will come a day he will change his mind, when he's married and wants children.

So, what have we learned?

1. Discuss with your husband what you want to talk about. Maybe, even practice what you will say with eachother. I was going to say practice together, but that can be taken out of context!!

2. Let your husband know that you would like to be present for the whole discussion.

Wish you all the best of luck, as you too will have to do this!