I love music!!
I am so grateful for music. I believe it is such a powerful thing. It's unbelievable how all sorts of different rhythms and instruments can make your emotions flow.
You might wonder why on earth I am writing about music. Dustin was asking me why I had I'm Too Sexy on my blog play list. I told him a lot of these songs have inspired me in some way or another, some have special memories to me, some just make me move! (not that I move all that great) They make me experience different emotions. I'm Too Sexy does two things for me. It makes me remember doing it for a lip sync in Young Womens. We were so sexy with all our vintage 70 clothes! It also reminds me that I am sexy! Call me vain I guess. Some days I don't feel that way, this song helps!
I believe music is a blessing. Have you ever been so down and heard a song that made you feel better? Or maybe it just comforted you in your feelings, knowing it's okay to feel the way you do. I believe you can receive answers to prayers, glean revelation and insight, whatever. As long as it is good music, it can always lift your spirit! So "here's to the music!" (to quote Michael McLean one of my favorites!) I guess you could say "Rock on!" I just don't know where that came from. (I'm a DORK, I know)
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Wasn't that a fun fashion show! Today, to get my lazy pregnant self off the couch/computer I had my cardio music on. Worked wonders! Hooray for music. :)
"In The Middle" by Jimmy Eat World is what helped me. I began teaching High School and the teacher next door was kind of mean to me. I drove home from work crying because I felt like I wasn't as good or experienced as the other teachers. That song said to me who cares what other people think, you are the best you can be right now and that's good. The opening line is, "Hey, don't write yourself off yet!"
I love music too. Right now I have a lot to handle and I want to be patient and loving, so I usually am listening to Church Hymns. I like Michael Mclean and Hillary Weeks too. I had some faster old music on my blog last week but It just kept me too wired. So I changed some of the songs on my playlist. LOve your thought for the day. Sheri Dew is my favorite. I got to meet her at a stake womens fireside back in Henderson. It was the day before I had to speak from the same pulpit she spoke from. This was Father's Day just a few weeks after my step dad Fred died. It gave me stregnth at a difficult time. He was more of a father to me than my own father. I read all of Sheri Dew Books. I am working still on God Wants A Powerful People.
Excellent question! You take the child over to the one he has offended and teach him empathy. Have him ask, "Are you all right?" Then you model model model appropriate social behavior.
The reason why it's so frustraing is because you think the child should get it (duh) but they don't, and so you can't get mad -which is even more frustyrating. The answer is model model model.
I totally agree about the music thing. I like it all, too! Church music/Josh Groban makes me feel and do better, country reminds me of my younger years and alternitive rock (I guess thats what they call it) makes me feel like I'm not getting too old! "Dance like no one is watching, girl!"
You are so right about the consequences. A lot of the time Elijah doesn't believe me when I tell him things and he has to find out for himself. Natural consequences is a big thing that those parents need to teach their kids. I think that mother is doing her sons a diservice by using the reason "they are different". She will keep them segregated because that is exactly what happens, the other kids are eventually going to ostrasize them because they don't like getting in trouble for everything. I always would punish Elijah for what went wrong in his social mishaps, but have come to know that is not the correct way to deal with it either.
Here's what needs to happen:
(If the other parent isn't going to model appropriate behavior) Larae, you can be the one to bring the boys back together and just like you have to use dialogue for a nursery child who cannot speak, you guide your son and the other boys through a resolution.
Example: "Ryan you say that Scott hit you? Scott, what happened? ... Oh, Ryan said this/ did this? Ok Scott, let's tell Ryan that hurt your feelings or you want a turn. Is it okay to hit? No. Is it better to agree to take turns and share? That's right. Okay Ryan will you ask Scott if he feels better and if he's ready to play nicely again? Good job guys."
I know it sounds babyish but that's how you teach the autistic boys to socialize and by going about it that way both kids feel like their feelings are being addressed and the other parent feels more at ease too.
I hope that helps. It stinks to have to walk away from a problem knowing that it wasn't solved and it's very frustrating when you don't know what to do about it. This has helped me to keep it calmer between other kids and Elijah when they are playing together. Believe me, other kids get mad at Elijah a lot and this teaches them how to get along with him. It also teaches him. So let me know how it goes.
I totally agree about music and I remember that fashions how- I always think about it when I hear You Ain't Nuthin' But A Hound Dog! When I'm at home I love to have music on, usually it it jus tthe hymns- boring i know- but I love the feeling they bring into our home. I will say the kids usually get to the CD player forst and then it's something like Hannah Montana or High School Musical!
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